Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts

Wednesday, November 20, 2013

Sleep Well . . .

Never alone! NEVER ALONE! What a promise. God will go with us through all the seasons of life, through all our ups and downs, through trials, temptations and triumphs, even through death (Psalm 139). So we can take courage and feel His strength. We are not alone!

Father in heaven, who is and was and is to come, thank You for being there and staying there when all others forsake and leave. You are the one constant in my life so full of change. Help me become more steadfast and faithful in my commitments and relationships to honor You and to learn more about You. 

Through Jesus I pray. Amen.

Sleep Tight…

Saturday, May 4, 2013

Begin At The Beginning

The end of a matter is better than its beginning, and patience is better than pride.  Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools.
Ecclesiasties 7:8-9


How do your control your actions, your anger, your patience – especially with those you love?

Recently, I heard about a wonderful couple. This extraordinary man and woman had been married for more than 60 years. Through the years they shared everything. They had talked about everything. They kept no secrets from each other . . . except one. It seems the little old woman had a shoe box in the top of her closet that she had warned her husband never to open or ask her about.

For all of those years he never thought about the box. But, then one day the old woman got very sick and the doctor said she would not recover. In trying to settle their affairs, her old husband slowly took down the shoe box and brought it to his wife's bedside.

She agreed that it was time he should know what was in the box.  When he opened it, he found two crocheted dolls and a stack of money totaling $95,000. He was astonished. “When we were to be married,” she explained, “my grandmother told me the secret of a happy marriage was to never argue. She told me that if I ever got angry with you, I should just keep quiet and crochet a little doll.”

The old man was so moved. Tears ran down his face. There were only two precious dolls in the box! She had only been angry with him two times in all those years of living and loving. He almost burst with happiness. 

“Darling,” he said, “that explains the dolls, but what about all this money? Where did it come from?”

“Oh, that,” she said, “that's the money I made from selling all the other dolls.”

How do we control our actions, our anger, our patience – especially with those we love? How do we create a life worthy of the Lord, worthy of our family? It begins at the beginning.

It begins with you and what resides deep within you. Just remember this simple wisdom:
  • Watch your thoughts; they become words.
  • Watch your words; they become actions.
  • Watch your actions; they become habits.
  • Watch your habits; they become character.
  • Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.
Yes, there is a direct relationship between you thoughts and your destiny. The old woman knew this every time she made one of her dolls. She controlled her anger and her pride and allowed patience to win the day.

But, don’t go it alone. No! Because if the Lord Jesus does not reside within you, then you will not carry the strength necessary to expel all the negativity, self-centeredness, and fear that worms its way into your daily life.

Invite the Lord into your heart and mind and then your thoughts and emotions will forever gravitate toward everything that is good. Your destiny will be shaped by a loving God who wants you to have a glorious life with Him.

This Week’s Prayer
Dear Lord, Remind me to take a deep breath whenever the stress becomes too much, whenever my anger tries to take control, and whenever I am running out of energy to make it through the day. Let me breath You in; Your Holy Spirit, You love, Your promise of a better tomorrow. Help me to control my thoughts and emotions. Remind me that I am in control of them and they do not control me. Come into my heart today and everyday as I make my way to Your Kingdom. Amen.

Monday, January 28, 2013

LIVE AND FORGIVE. FORGIVE AND LIVE.


And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.
                                                Mark 11:25

Many years ago, a very wise Sunday School teacher invited some of her student’s parents to class. Thinking the teacher had come up with a small skit or a cute song for the children to perform, many of the parents were happy to attend.

When the students and teachers arrived they found a stack of clear plastic bags and a large bin of potatoes waiting for them. After welcoming everyone, she explained that the parents had been invited because, “We are all children in the eyes of God and we all have lessons to learn.” Smiling, the parents realized they might be in for something they didn’t expect. Continuing with the lesson, this great teacher explained, “For every person you have refused to forgive in your life, take a potato. Then, write their name on it and put it in the plastic bag. Don’t stop until you’ve written the name of every person you haven’t forgiven.” When all the children and parents had finished, the teacher explained the rest of the assignment. She told them simply to carry the bag full of potatoes with them everywhere for one week; putting it beside their beds at night, in the car with them, next to their desks at work and school – everywhere!

The parents, knowing the assignment was presented to them in front of their children and that they could not turn away from its challenge at the risk of being hypocritical, took up their filled sacks and began the week.


To say that bringing the sacks everywhere was an inconvenience is an understatement. The potatoes began to rot and the smell was awful. Lugging the heavy load made life impossible.

When everyone came back the following Sunday, one father explained it best, “The hassle of lugging this terrible thing around made it very clear what a foul and heavy weight I am carrying spiritually. I’ll gladly give up this sack. But, I’ll be even happier to forgive everyone whose hurts I have been carrying on my heart.”

If you had the same assignment, how heavy would your sack be right now?

Unforgiveness is like taking a poison and expecting the other person to die. When you won't forgive others, you are truly only hurting yourself. Roy Lessin, a Christian author wrote a wonderful reminder, “If our greatest need had been information, God would have sent us an educator. If our greatest need had been technology, God would have sent us a scientist. If our greatest need had been money, God would have sent us an economist. If our greatest need had been pleasure, God would have sent us an entertainer. But our greatest need was forgiveness, so God sent us a Savior.”

God sent us a Savior that we might know His forgiveness. But, not only are we to know God’s forgiveness, we must share it with others by forgiving them. This week, let go of ALL your unforgiveness and release ALL your “potatoes” to the Lord. Remember, you need to get free so that you are able to do great things for Him!


This Week’s Prayer
Dear Lord, Forgive me of my sins. You have done so much for me, but forgiving me for all my sins is the most powerful and has given me eternal life. Teach me how it is done. Teach me how to forgive so that I may let go of all those prisoners I have yet to release in my heart. Melt my heart to the pain I have caused by holding onto the grudges and the sins made against me. Amen.

Saturday, January 5, 2013

HOW TO FIND UNFADING BEAUTY


THE UNFADING BEAUTY OF A GENTLE AND QUIET SPIRIT

“He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.”
Proverbs 18:22


I am amazed at the number of women who actually think their husbands DO NOT need anything from them. Yes, it’s true; many husbands try to act cool and calm, like they have it all figured out. As men we even try to give our wives the impression that we don't need anything beyond intimacy and a good meal.

We are very good at exhibiting disdain, disinterest, isolation and stoicism.

Wives, I want to tell you a secret: it is all a facade. Inside, most of us are confused about who we are as men and trembling under a deep sense of failure and inadequacy. We've learned a few tricks to keep those things well hidden and we invest a lot of energy in keeping up the act.

But, your husband does need you. He needs you terribly. In fact, he will probably look to you to determine how he feels about himself.

Your husband needs your respect because he is constantly struggling with feelings of self-doubt and failure. As men, we've been designed for achievement and enterprise, but are frustrated by a world that does not cooperate with us. Your husband needs to know that he is enough; that he has what it takes!

He needs you to encourage him, affirm him, and even admire him. Your husband is longing to know that he is competent and desirable in your eyes. A truly successful marrieage is a testimony to the awesome power of a wife's loving embrace and her words of esteem.

Your husband also needs you to have a tranquil, contented spirit. The Bible calls upon you, as a woman of God, to develop “the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight.”

Another part of the secret I am telling you is that men find a woman who is at peace within herself, one who is confident and happy, to be irresistibly attractive. Your husband needs a wife who loves life and accepts the person God has made her to be. A man's world is filled with competition, injustice, stress, and responsibility. His wife has the incredible power to calm his heart simply by her own God-given tranquility.

If you have developed the habit of being demanding and demeaning toward your husband, this will turn him into a hollow shell of a man. It will kill his heart. It is exactly the opposite of what he needs from you because just when he needs you to affirm him, you kick him when he's down. Just when he needs you to calm him by your tranquil spirit, you heap on the anxiety and bring tension to an already troubled home. You may think that by “keeping after him” your husband will eventually get the message and give you what you want. It won’t. You will only push him farther away.

This Week's Prayer
Lord, please save the marriages that need saving. Save them all through Your undying love and grace. Give husbands the courage to Love as you did Your Church - with their very lives. Give wives the grace to love their husbands with patience and kindness. Amen.